Is your fear stopping you being on camera?

by | Aug 1, 2022 | Confidence, Tips

Imagine you’re at a party.  You’re trying to look cool as you walk through the room, but suddenly you bump into a table and spill your drink – all over yourself.

Mortified, you run off to the bathroom to clean yourself up, convinced everyone is watching you and thinking about how stupid you look.

Right?  Wrong.

Spotlight Syndrome is an effect that describes the phenomenon where people tend to believe that others are paying more attention to them than they actually are.  So you feel like you’re walking around with a giant spotlight shining on you.

So how does this relate to video?  When you see yourself on camera you might immediately zoom in on an aspect you don’t like about yourself – and you’re convinced everyone else must have that same thought when they see you!

But isn’t it a game changer to know they’re probably not?  I feel that just knowing about Spotlight Syndrome can help liberate us!

Here’s a personal example I want to share with you.  When I first saw this photo of myself the very first thing I did was zoom RIGHT in on my double chin.


What my mind instantly did:

I felt miserable for a hot minute.  Then I remembered that NO ONE else was zooming in on my chin like that.  Sure they might clock it, but I don’t think they would spend any longer than ½ a second thinking about it – so why was I so fixated on it?

I forced myself to zoom out…my hair looks good!  I love that colour lipstick on me!  I was able to see it for what it is, a nice photo that would work well for my website.

So if you find yourself worrying about how you look or sound on video, take a moment to think about how you would feel if you were on the other side of this interaction.

You must have seen countless images of all sorts of different kinds of faces in photos, heard lots of different voices on videos…and not thought twice about it!!

So try zooming out, keeping perspective and looking at it from a friend’s point of view.  Then go and get yourself out there…because you deserve to be seen!!!

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